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My Lover Has Left Me For Someone
Else
Next Focus in Divine
Consciousness
Divine
Order is always in place.
My lover has left me for someone else.
3.) THE "DRAMA"
AS IT APPLIES TO THE SET-UP: |
Grief |
Sadness |
Unworthy |
Angry |
Self-hatred |
Shame |
Devastated |
Lonely |
Betrayed |
Humiliated |
Terrified |
Desolate |
Broken |
Enraged |
Outraged |
Abandoned |
1.) |
I am drained. |
2.) |
I am furious; why did my lover leave? |
3.) |
I hate myself. |
4.) |
I wish I were dead. |
5.) |
I am completely humiliated. |
6.) |
I am nothing. |
7.) |
I am a totally useless human being. |
8.) |
I am lost. |
9.) |
I am desperate. |
10.) |
I can never do anything right. |
11.) |
I am not worthy of love. |
12.) |
I am worthless. |
Worst
End Scenario:
I am not worthy of having a wonderful lover. No one loves me.
I hate myself. I am enraged. My life IS a living HELL,
and will never change.
This is it, I am stuck here to serve out my time.
I live and will die unloved and alone. I will live and die in
pain, feeling utterly useless, alone, abandoned, and worst of
all, unloved. I loathe myself now and forever. I just want to
die and get this horrible and painful life over with.
1.) |
Who/What imprinted you? And How? |
1.) |
My mother imprinted me with the lie that I was
not good enough and never would be by always rejecting me when
I was not perfect. |
2.) |
My mother imprinted me with the lie that I was
not worthy of her love
unless I was perfect by constantly judging my lack of perfection. |
3.) |
My father imprinted me with the lie that I was
not worthy of his attention or love by never having time for
me, treating me like his possession. |
4.) |
My parents imprinted me with the lie that I was
unlovable by withholding their love. |
5.) |
My mother imprinted me with RAGE
by often raging at me when I did not meet her expectations. |
6.) |
My mother imprinted me with the lie of jealousy
by being jealous of my friendships with others, feeling she would
lose control if
I was closer to others than to her. |
7.) |
My mother imprinted me with the lie that I will
always be betrayed, and that it is OK to betray others if it
serves my purposes. |
8.) |
My mother imprinted me with self-centeredness
and selfishness. |
9.) |
My father imprinted me with the lie that life
is out to get me. |
10.) |
My father imprinted me with the lie that I would
always fail anyway, so why try? |
11.) |
My mother imprinted me with the lie of not being
able to "let go", out of a fear
that what I have now is all there is. |
12.) |
My mother imprinted me with the lie that every
relationship is a struggle and a losing battle. |
2.) |
The Payoff.
Name it.
Name the Negative Power that feeds the Payoff. |
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The Payoff is the righteousness I get to feel.
Smug in my pain that it will never change,
so I do not have to do The
Work to allow the potential of change to take place. I feel
righteous in my knowing I was right and good and did all I could,
and that my lover did not try as hard as I did. Not hard enough.
This righteousness allows me to feel a kind of negative power,
instead of surrendering to the feeling
of powerlessness. I also never really have to try in a relationship
because I know it will fail anyway. Fuck it, who cares? Neither
Spirit nor anyone else cares about me, so why should I even try???
I get to remain angry at Spirit as a punishing father and never
really have to take responsibility for my part in it. What feeds
my Payoff is the negative power of Rage. |
3.) |
What I need to change
inside myself. |
1.) |
I need to change my feeling
of being separate and alone into feelings of being connected
to myself and to others. |
2.) |
I need to change my feelings of self-loathing
into feelings of self-love. |
3.) |
I need to change my feelings of being weak and
helpless into feelings that I am strong and capable. |
4.) |
I need to change my feelings of being the victim/martyr
to God with no say
so in my life into feelings that I am self-directed and make
my own choices with my Soul's
guidance. |
5.) |
I need to change the lie that if my lover leaves
I will never find another relationship partner to the truth
that am worthy and perfect just as I am, and I will find another
partner that is even better than before. |
6.) |
I need to change the lie that I am not worthy
to the truth that I am totally worthy just as I am. |
7.) |
I need to change the false belief that I am being
persecuted to the truth that I am supported by Spirit in every
moment. |
8.) |
I need to change the lie that I am just a useless
piece of shit to the truth that I am a wonderful human being
with much to offer. |
9.) |
I need to change the lie that I am not worthy
of love to the truth
that I am totally worthy of my own self-love
as well as another's love. |
10.) |
I need to change the false belief that I must
do a lot to be accepted by God
to the truth that simply being is enough. |
11.) |
I need to change the false belief that my life
is over to the truth that my new life is just beginning. |
12.) |
I need to change the false belief that I am past
the best part of my life to the truth that life gets better and
better all the time. |
1.) |
Like my mother I verbally abuse others. |
2.) |
Like my mother I am jealous of others. |
3.) |
Like my mother I am very critical
and judgmental
of myself and others. |
4.) |
Like my mother I hate anyone who I perceive threatens
me in any way. |
5.) |
Like my father I feel I will fail, so why try
too hard? |
6.) |
Like my father I betray others. |
7.) |
Like my father I abandon others. |
8.) |
Like my father I am not present for others in
a relationship. |
9.) |
Like my father I am so damn self-centered. |
10.) |
Like my father I am a loser. |
11.) |
Like my father I am a failure. |
12.) |
Like my father I expect life to knock me down
again and again. Is it really worth getting up only to be knocked
down? |
5.) |
Triangulations: |
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Show at least 3 triangles with you in each of
the three positions: Victim (V), Savior (S), and Persecutor (P). |
1.) |
My parents taught me - "You will always
fail". |
2.) |
My mother taught me - "You are totally worthless". |
3.) |
My mother taught me - "You are not worthy
of anyone's love,
you have to earn it". |
4.) |
My mother taught me to be jealous of other people. |
5.) |
My mother taught me to be possessive and hold
on for dear life or you would lose those you love most. |
6.) |
My mother taught me - "You are not loveable". |
7.) |
My mother taught me that I would always be abandoned. |
8.) |
My mother taught me that I would always be betrayed. |
9.) |
My mother taught me that I was not worthy to
go through life deeply loving somebody else and he or she equally
return my love. |
10.) |
My mother taught me that you had to give more
than you get to get anything back at all. |
11.) |
My mother taught me that I would always be punished
constantly because I am just not good enough. |
12.) |
My mother taught me that change
was a bad thing, that it meant I was a failure. |
13.) |
My mother taught me that I am being punished
by God for being a
bad boy. |
14.) |
My mother taught me to hate myself. |
15.) |
My mother taught me that I was not worthy of
having any real happiness in my life. |
16.) |
My father taught me that life sucks and then
you die. |
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Symbols
from Soul:
Image of me in a scary free-fall. Then my
parachute opens. I float gently towards the ground. The image
of a large Tiger in all its strength with its paw slapping out
and showing its claws/power. Lots of blue light. My lover and
me embracing and being very loving. The silhouette of a young
man with the word "potential" that can be manifested
inside him. A beautiful Rainbow. The word "Life".
Life is just beginning. This is a rebirth.
It is appropriate for the growth of you as a human being at this
point in your life. The human being is never abandoned or betrayed
by Spirit. Never!! Only the ego believes that. Change
is a constant part of the Consciousness
Process. Welcome and embrace Change, for it has
the capacity to take the human being to constantly new and deeper
levels of Self-Love.
The question is, can one Love
oneself no matter what the external dance is? The answer is,
how could one do otherwise? The parachute speaks clearly to a
soft and compassionate landing. The Tiger is strength and resourcefulness,
for the human being has both the strength and the resourcefulness
to meet Self-Love and incorporate it as an unshakable part of
one's Being. Self-Love
becomes so intrinsic that it is quite tangible in all moments
and a welcomed ally. Blue Light is a healing light and the support
of the Divine
Mother aspect of Consciousness. The human being is always
supported by Spirit; simply recognize it and KNOW it from the
Heart of Hearts that
resides within you. Embrace yourself. Embrace ALL of the parts
within that represent your highest good. By embracing all parts
of you, the dark as well as the Light, you will gain a deeper
understanding that opens to wholeness. There is new potential
available in all moments.
Spirit truly does want us to have what our hearts desire: If
we only choose to believe this with every ounce of our Being!
New potential right there, so close, one has but to step over
the threshold and lovingly embrace Change. The
Rainbow itself is the pot of Gold,
paydirt, a wonderful and positive symbol to be with and Live
Life. Total potential is available right here, right
now, in the present moment. LOVE. |
a.) |
Mirror work: I stand before the mirror and tell
myself daily that I am totally worthy and totally loveable just
as I am. I also tell myself there is the potential of another
partner out there for me. Life is not over, it is just beginning.
I open to embrace new life and new potentials. |
b.) |
To journal about all of this daily in a positively
reinforcing manner. |
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