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I Abuse Others Covertly
And Overtly
Next Focus in Divine
Consciousness
Everything is God.
I abuse others covertly
and overtly.
Note: In the following worksheet, the patterns
and behaviors of overt and covert Self-abuse are presented/described
in all four
lower bodies: physical,
emotional,
mental, and
spiritual.
In the physical body, covert and overt Self-abuse is exhibited
through physically self-destructive actions.
In the emotional body, covert and overt Self-abuse is manifested
through negative, self-destructive feelings.
In the mental body, covert and overt Self-abuse is exemplified
by self-destructive thoughts. In the spiritual body, covert
and overt self-abuse is manifested by negative relationships
with self and God. |
3.) THE "DRAMA"
AS IT APPLIES TO THE SET-UP: |
vile |
outraged |
abusive |
ashamed |
despicable |
hideous |
impotent |
isolated |
evil |
jealous |
pitiful |
alone |
cruel |
furious |
sorrowful |
wretched |
a.) |
Overt
Abuse to Others |
1.) |
In my physical
body the overt abuse to others is I physically assault others. |
2.) |
In my physical body the overt abuse to others
is I intimidate others by my stance or posture when I am seeking
power over them. |
3.) |
In my physical body the overt abuse to others
is I control and
manipulate
others through sex. |
4.) |
In my physical body the overt abuse to others
is I model self-abusive behavior to others and pretend my behavior
is healthy/normal. |
5.) |
In my physical body the overt abuse to others
is I take out my anger and vengence on others by hitting, slapping,
pinching, arm-twisting, fighting, or hurting. |
6.) |
In my physical body the overt abuse to others
is I verbally blame and lash out at others for my physical illnesses,
imperfections, and shortcomings. |
7.) |
In my physical body the overt abuse to others
is I give evil looks to others when I am enraged. |
8.) |
In my physical body the overt abuse to others
is I walk out on others when I am enraged. |
9.) |
In my physical body the overt abuse to others
is I constantly demand attention from others. |
10.) |
In my physical body the overt abuse to others
is I keep others waiting for me. |
11.) |
In my physical body the overt abuse to others
is I interrupt others before they are finished speaking. |
12.) |
In my physical body the overt abuse to others
is I openly judge and ridicule others for any manner of speech,
behavior, or appearance that is different from mine. |
1.) |
In my physical
body the covert abuse to others is I secretly wish physical
harm to others. |
2.) |
In my physical body the covert abuse to others
is I punish others with my unrealistic expectations of their
physical abilities. I push others beyond their physical limits
and covertly compete with them. |
3.) |
In my physical body the covert abuse to others
is I believe I am physically superior. I condemn others for their
physical shortcomings. |
4.) |
In my physical body the covert abuse to others
is I secretly judge
and condemn others for their physical appearance. |
5.) |
In my physical body the covert abuse to others
is I secretly judge and condemn others by the color of their
skin. |
6.) |
In my physical body the covert abuse to others
is I am jealous of other people's youthful, beautiful, graceful
bodies. |
7.) |
In my physical body the covert abuse to others
is I privately judge and condemn others by how they wear their
hair, their make-up, their clothes, and their jewelry. |
8.) |
In my physical body the covert abuse to others
is I silently berate others for how they sound: their tone of
voice, rate of speech, and laughter. |
9.) |
In my physical body the covert abuse to others
is I pretend to listen to others. |
10.) |
In my physical body the covert abuse to others
is I pretend to enjoy sex. |
11.) |
In my physical body the covert abuse to others
is I sabotage the physical well-being of others by eating junk
food and convincing others to join me. |
12.) |
In my physical body the covert abuse to others
is I punish others by withholding loving touch, attention, intimacy,
and sex. |
a.) |
Overt
Abuse to Others |
1.) |
In my emotional
body the overt abuse to others is I emotionally rape others. |
2.) |
In my emotional body the overt abuse to others
is I get bitchy and cranky to manipulate
others. |
3.) |
In my emotional body the overt abuse to others
is I desert others when they are in emotional distress. |
4.) |
In my emotional body the overt abuse to others
is I am stubborn and belligerent with others who get in my way,
or when I want to get my own way. |
5.) |
In my emotional body the overt abuse to others
is I wield my power to create stress for others by harping, nagging,
and being negative. |
6.) |
In my emotional body the overt abuse to others
is I make caustic remarks and gossip about others. |
7.) |
In my emotional body the overt abuse to others
is I punish others by not speaking to them or avoiding eye contact. |
8.) |
In my emotional body the overt abuse to others
is I violate their trust by lies of comission and omission. |
9.) |
In my emotional body the overt abuse to others
is I purposefully ridicule others to make them feel humiliated,
ashamed, mortified, and embarrassed. |
10.) |
In my emotional body the overt abuse to others
is I am vindictive and belittle others to get back at them and
get my revenge. |
11.) |
In my emotional body the overt abuse to others
is I devalue other people's feelings and make them feel wrong. |
12.) |
In my emotional body the overt abuse to others
is I encourage their negative feelings, negative self-talk, negative
self-image, and support their emotional ruin. |
1.) |
In my emotional
body the covert abuse to others is I make receiving my love and attention contingent
upon pleasing me, following my rules. |
2.) |
In my emotional body the covert abuse to others
is I hide what I am feeling
or thinking. Instead, I smile and act loving and kind, no matter
what I am really feeling inside. |
3.) |
In my emotional body the covert abuse to others
is I hold others hostage to my emotional blackmail. |
4.) |
In my emotional body the covert abuse to others
is I covet other people's happiness. |
5.) |
In my emotional body the covert abuse to others
is I do not trust other people and won't allow them into my emotional
realm. |
6.) |
In my emotional body the covert abuse to others
is I withhold my compassion, empathy, and emotional intimacy
with others. |
7.) |
In my emotional body the covert abuse to others
is I hold grudges against others. |
8.) |
In my emotional body the covert abuse to others
is I encourage others to feel sorry for themselves and engage
in victimhood. |
9.) |
In my emotional body the covert abuse to others
is I feel powerful when others feel worthless, and am relieved
and secretly happy over other people's pain, grief, or loss. |
10.) |
In my emotional body the covert abuse to others
is I think it is my right say whatever I want to others, regardless
of the emotional damage I may cause. |
11.) |
In my emotional body the covert abuse to others
is I pretend to be lovingly present for others when I am actually
emotionally unavailable. |
12.) |
In my emotional body the covert abuse to others
is I rarely allow anyone else to have the last word or to be
right. |
a.) |
Overt
Abuse to Others |
1.) |
In my mental
body the overt abuse to others is I mentally attack others
and speak those thoughts aloud. |
2.) |
In my mental body the overt abuse to others is
I judge, criticize,
and condemn other people's thoughts and ideas. |
3.) |
In my mental body the overt abuse to others is
I encourage others to think negative thoughts. |
4.) |
In my mental body the overt abuse to others is
I play mental games with people to make them feel inferior and
make me feel intellectually superior. |
5.) |
In my mental body the overt abuse to others is
I get angry with others when they space out and cannot focus. |
6.) |
In my mental body the overt abuse to others is
I space out and let my mind wander when other people are talking
to me. |
7.) |
In my mental body the overt abuse to others is
I exaggerate and embellish the truth
to impress others. |
8.) |
In my mental body the overt abuse to others is
I think I am mentally superior and attempt to undermine other's
self-esteem. |
9.) |
In my mental body the overt abuse to others is
I demean and devalue others by being prejudiced against their
education, language, diction, vocabulary, ideas, and beliefs. |
10.) |
In my mental body the overt abuse to others is
I attack people mentally when I see they are easily confused
by my mind games. |
11.) |
In my mental body the overt abuse to others is
I condemn others for living in their mental fantasies. |
12.) |
In my mental body the overt abuse to others is
I intellectualize and trivialize their physical, emotional, and
spiritual pain. |
1.) |
In my mental
body the covert abuse to others is I violate other's privacy
with my thoughts, judgements,
and criticism. |
2.) |
In my mental body the covert abuse to others
is I think and expect the worst of other people. |
3.) |
In my mental body the covert abuse to others
is I pirate the ideas of others and claim them for my own. |
4.) |
In my mental body the covert abuse to others
is I push others to think too fast and spin them into intellectual
chaos. |
5.) |
In my mental body the covert abuse to others
is I privately blame others when they do not understand what
I say. |
6.) |
In my mental body the covert abuse to others
is I believe other people are stupid. |
7.) |
In my mental body the covert abuse to others
is I secretly question and distrust anything anyone else says. |
8.) |
In my mental body the covert abuse to others
is I dismiss others' thought processes and attribute their ideas,
hopes, and dreams to "magical thinking." |
9.) |
In my mental body the covert abuse to others
is I fantasize about revenge and ways to torment others. |
10.) |
In my mental body the covert abuse to others
is I sacrifice true communication with others by not listening
to them and only paying attention to formulating my reply. |
11.) |
In my mental body the covert abuse to others
is I think I have someone figured out and do not recognize or
allow any change in my perception of them. |
12.) |
In my mental body the covert abuse to others
is I disassociate from others and hide out in my mind. |
a.) |
Overt
Abuse to Others |
1.) |
In my spiritual
body the overt abuse to others is I defile and devalue others'
religious beliefs. |
2.) |
In my spiritual body the overt abuse to others
is I act spiritually superior towards others. I know the right
path for others to take. |
3.) |
In my spiritual body the overt abuse to others
is I mock other's piety. |
4.) |
In my spiritual body the overt abuse to others
is I think it is beneath me to participate in other's spiritual
ceremonies. |
5.) |
In my spiritual body the overt abuse to others
is I encourage others to be a spiritual hypocrite like me. |
6.) |
In my spiritual body the overt abuse to others
is I support others disconnecting from God
as I do. |
7.) |
In my spiritual body the overt abuse to others
is I foster other people's spiritual isolation. |
8.) |
In my spiritual body the overt abuse to others
is I sermonize my religious beliefs to others. |
9.) |
In my spiritual body the overt abuse to others
is I question other's spiritual integrity. |
10.) |
In my spiritual body the overt abuse to others
is I hold another hostage as my spiritual guru. |
11.) |
In my spiritual body the overt abuse to others
is I manipulate and threaten others by imposing my
spiritual beliefs on their actions. |
12.) |
In my spiritual body the overt abuse to others
is I validate other people's spiritual victimization. |
1.) |
In my spiritual
body the covert abuse to others is I do not trust other people's
religious views. |
2.) |
In my spiritual body the covert abuse to others
is I do not believe other people are good enough, or smart enough,
to have God
thoughts. |
3.) |
In my spiritual body the covert abuse to others
is I believe other people are sinners. |
4.) |
In my spiritual body the covert abuse to others
is I believe spiritual leaders are hypocrites. |
5.) |
In my spiritual body the covert abuse to others
is I doubt other people's spiritual connections. |
6.) |
In my spiritual body the covert abuse to others
is I deny others peace
and joy. |
7.) |
In my spiritual body the covert abuse to others
is I do not treat others as sacred
Beings because I
doubt their holiness. |
8.) |
In my spiritual body the covert abuse to others
is I don't believe anyone deserves God's
Love. |
9.) |
In my spiritual body the covert abuse to others
is I do not believe in the spiritual salvation of others. |
10.) |
In my spiritual body the covert abuse to others
is I don't believe others are sincere when they repent and ask
forgiveness. It's all a spiritual hoax. |
11.) |
In my spiritual body the covert abuse to others
is I don't trust other people's connection to Soul. |
12.) |
In my spiritual body the covert abuse to others
is I believe that I am farther along the enlightenment path than
others. |
My Worst
End Scenario:
All of my abuse to others comes back to me ten thousand times
ten thousand. I am trapped in this continuous cycle of unceasing
abuse. This vibration
fills every cell
of my being so thoroughly that I am a magnet solely for the vibrations
of abuse. I have full awareness and realization of this and am
powerless to stop it! Abuse is all I think about, all I know,
all I taste, all I feel, all I breathe. I can't stop myself.
I am addicted to the pain I cause and the power I have over others.
This awareness is my living torture. This is a Hell
of my own making. I never know Love,
give Love, or receive Love. I do not have friends or family.
I die alone. I welcome DEATH.
1.) |
Who/What imprinted you? And How? |
1.) |
My mother imprinted me with abusing others by
being silent and withdrawn, never trusting others, never sharing
her thoughts, feelings,
or beliefs. |
2.) |
My mother imprinted me with abusing others by
lying to others. |
3.) |
My mother imprinted me with abusing others by
believing that all people are sinners. |
4.) |
My mother imprinted me with abusing others by
blaming others for her problems. |
5.) |
My father imprinted me with abusing others by
having to prove and demonstrating that he is better than others
and has power over them. |
6.) |
My father imprinted me with abusing others by
being close-mined and judgemental of others deeds, feelings,
beliefs, and motives |
7.) |
My father imprinted me with abusing others by
being uncomfortable with other people's emotional outbursts. |
8.) |
My father imprinted me with abusing others by
believing that people are bad and must be punished. |
9.) |
My parents imprinted me with abusing others by
hating people of different races, religions, and colors of skin. |
10.) |
My parents imprinted me with abusing others by
being sarcastic and negating the beliefs of others. |
11.) |
My parents and my religion imprinted me with
abusing others by being rigid and dictatorial. |
12.) |
My religion imprinted me with abusing others
by teaching me that we are all unworthy of God's
Love, and must all
be forgiven for our weaknesses, misdeeds, and flaws. |
2.) |
The Payoff.
Name it.
Name the Negative Power that feeds the Payoff. |
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The payoff for abusing others is that I feel
powerful over others. When I abuse others, I no longer feel helpless,
hopeless, separate, worthless, or ashamed. I do not have to take
responsibility for my actions, thoughts, feelings,
words, or beliefs. I can blame my family for my abusive behavior
because they are the ones who taught me how to abuse others.
I continue my identity as abuser, and remain stuck in this vicious
cycle of self-loathing. I continue to play all of the roles of
victim, persecutor and savior in this cycle of abuse. The negative
power behind these statments is the rage
that I have suppressed all my life in order to survive. |
3.) |
What I need to change
inside myself. |
1.) |
I need to change
my abuse of disconnecting from others into practicing loving
connection with others and holding an open heart
and an open mind. |
2.) |
I need to change my abuse of shunning touch and
contact from others into clearly stating my own physical boundaries
and asking them to do the same. |
3.) |
I need to change my abuse of criticizing others'
religious beliefs into honoring others' truths
and knowing of God. |
4.) |
I need to change my abuse of demeaning others'
connection to God and criticizing others' spiritual paths
into trusting God in me and in others, and respecting each individual
Soul's path. |
5.) |
I need to change my abuse of blaming others for
my suffering into loving others by wishing them only the best. |
6.) |
I need to change the abuse of competing with
and comparing myself to others into knowing we are all unique
and Soul-filled beings. |
7.) |
I need to change the abuse of my constant critical
talk into speaking gently, kindly,and lovingly. |
8.) |
I need to change the abuse of believing I have
mental superiority over others into knowing we are all equal. |
9.) |
I need to change the abuse of intolerance for
others into love,
patience, and acceptance of others. |
10.) |
I need to change the abuse of plotting revenge
against others into surrendering
any feelings of
imagined wrongs. |
11.) |
I need to change the abuse of spiritual arrogance
into realizing we all are exactly where we need to be on our
own spiritual path. |
12.) |
I need to change the abuse of martyrdom and victimhood
into knowing that I am the creator of my own reality,
and I take full reponsibility for all that I create. |
1.) |
Like my mother, I abuse others by talking behind
other's backs. |
2.) |
Like my mother, I abuse others by making others
believe they are the cause of my unhappiness. |
3.) |
Like my mother, I abuse others by imposing limits
on them and believing them to be inadequate or incapable. |
4.) |
Like my mother, I abuse others by needing and
demanding their approval. |
5.) |
Like my father, I abuse others by believing their
only worth is in what they can accomplish or produce. |
6.) |
Like my father, I abuse others by abandoning
them. |
7.) |
Like my father, I abuse others by projecting
my fears onto them. |
8.) |
Like my father, I abuse others by creating situations
where they will always fail. |
9.) |
Like my parents, I abuse others by my emotional
inaccessibility. |
10.) |
Like my parents, I abuse others by constantly
demanding attention. I must always be the center of attention. |
11.) |
Like my religion, I abuse others by believing
God only loves
special, chosen people like me. |
12.) |
Like my religion, I abuse others by fostering
their helplessness. |
5.) |
Triangulations: |
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Show at least 3 triangles with you in each of
the three positions: Victim (V), Savior (S), and Persecutor (P). |
1.) |
My mother taught me, "It's your fault I'm
sick." |
2.) |
My mother taught me, "You've always been
that way. You'll never change." |
3.) |
My mother taught me, "I'll never forgive
you for that." |
4.) |
My mother taught me, "If you don't love
me, I'll kill myself." |
5.) |
My father taught me, "You're living in a
fantasy world. You'll never make it in the 'real' world." |
6.) |
My father taught me, "If you are going to
hit, hit him first and hit him hard." |
7.) |
My father taught me, "We'll do it my way
or not at all." |
8.) |
My father taught me, "If you can't do it
right, don't do it at all." |
9.) |
My parents taught me, "Can't you do better
than that?" |
10.) |
My parents taught me, "You're being silly.
You don't feel that way." |
11.) |
My parents taught me, "You're such a pain
in the neck." |
12.) |
My parents taught me, "You never do anything
right. Now I'll have to do it for you." |
13.) |
My parents taught me, "I'm not speaking
to you. I'll talk to you when I'm good and ready." |
14.) |
My parents taught me, "Don't you dare walk
away from me." |
15.) |
My religion taught me, "You are going to
be punished for doing that, for saying that, for having those
thoughts." |
16.) |
My religion taught me, "If you don't love
God, you won't get
into Heaven." |
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Symbols
from Soul:
Images given from Soul are that of a
colony of bees working in a huge hive. Inside there are thousands
of small chambers filled with activity. Each bee has a purpose,
a function, a job to perform. All the bees are focused on the
task at hand. The entire community is buzzing with activity.
This collective energy raises the vibration of the
whole bee hive. As the vibration expands, the bee hive image
dissolves. A new image of an opening rose blossom appears. The
rose opens fully. It becomes radiant and luminenscent. The rose,
too, disappears, and everything becomes pure white light energy.
The message from Soul
is that each bee represents an individual person, with all of
their individual ego attachments and negative patterns. The group
of bees represents humanity
as a whole. The bees, living in community within the hive, represent
the Collective
Consciousness of humanity.
Symbolically, the hive represents a non-abusive,
cooperative pattern of living. This is not a natural state for
humanity, with
its ego entrapments. Living in ego causes humanity to be ruled
by judgment, criticism, control,
manipulaiton,
protection,
and defense. By
living in this egoic state, humanity has perpetuated overt
and covert abuse
of others. These abuses are anchored in self-abuse and self-hatred,
and reflect the disharmony on the planet. Humanity is constantly
seeking harbors of safety to experience and learn harmlessness
toward self and others.
All the bees are working together toward a
common purpose. There is no separation, no alienation, no harmfulness.
There are no distractions from ego. Soul
offers humanity the opportunity to live a Soul-centered life
instead of an ego-centered life.
The rose is the symbol
of each individual and represents the potential for change.
The closed rose is in a contracted state of isolation and aloneness.
As the rose opens, it unfolds its petals in trust and faith,
interaction and change. If the rose does not open, it withers
and dies. So it is with each individual. If the individual experiences
his/her highest potential, they open to giving and receiving
Love. The fully opened
rose/fully opened individual is living the full beauty of life.
The rose is transformed into the pure white
light of Divine
Love. Transformation occurs when the individual is in union and communion
with Soul. Transformation
is Soul-guided. With Soul guiding the individual, they can embrace
the ego with Love and experience joy,
peace, and harmony
within themselves and humanity.
Humanity can become one with the Love and wisdom of Soul, coming
into union and communion with God. |
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I will tell a different person each day for seven
days about my practice of changing my abuse of others into Love of others. The seven
abuses that I am ready to change
into Love are:
1. |
the abuse of judging/criticizing others
into the Love of accepting
and honoring others just as they are. |
2. |
the abuse of exploding my anger on others into
the Love of compassion and forgiveness toward others and myself. |
3. |
the abuse of being conceited and arrogant toward
others into the Love of humility and acceptance of others. |
4. |
the abuse of being cruel to others into the Love
of kindness toward others. |
5. |
the abuse of lying to others into the Love of
standing in the Truth
of my Being 24 hours
a day, and speaking with honesty and integrity. |
6. |
the abuse of destroying others' self-worth into
the Love of empowering, supporting, and encouraging self-worth
in others. |
7. |
the abuse of demeaning others' connections to
God into the Love of
honoring all persons as God, which they are. |
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